THE WIFE

                                                    In Indo-Aryan languages, a wife is known as Patni, which means a woman who shares everything in this world with her husband and he does the same, including their identity. Decisions are ideally made in mutual consent. A wife usually takes care of anything inside her household, including the family's health, the children's education, a parent's needs.
The majority of Hindu marriages in rural and traditional India are arranged marriages. Once they find a suitable family (family of same caste, culture and financial status), the boy and the girl see and talk to each other to decide the final outcome. In recent times however the western culture has had significant influence and the new generations are more open to the idea of marrying for love.
Indian law has recognized rape, sexual, emotional or verbal abuse of a woman by her husband as crimes. In Hinduism, a wife is known as a Patni or Ardhangini (similar to "the better half") meaning a part of the husband or his family. In Hinduism, a woman or man can get married, but only have one husband or wife respectively.
In India, women may wear vermillion powder on their foreheads, an ornament called Mangalsutra (Hindi मंगलसूत्र ) which is a form of necklace, or rings on their toes (which are not worn by single women) to show their status as married women.

GOOD TIME AND BAD TIME.

A Bad Waste of Time?

In this case, these two employees appeared to be wasting time at the soda machine just chitchatting.  It seemed that they were just wasting time.  They had not done anything productive in their time at the soda machine or received much of value.

How do we define wasting time?  It certainly can depend on your perspective.

However, in the simplest sense, we can say…

Wasting time =  not working = spending time on activities that do not provide any value.

Some examples of bad wasting of time:

• Doing trivial activities when something of higher priority needs to be done
• Actions that are not productive and bring no direct value
• Procrastinating when one should be working
• Activities where nothing is learned or no mental/physical benefit is received    

Good Wasting of Time = Investing

Are they any examples of wasting time that are a good use of time?

This sounds like an oxymoron.  But, sometimes it is a matter of perspective.

Let’s go back to our two soda machine employees.  Maybe this was a manager trying to take care of one of his employees that had just suffered a personal loss.  Perhaps, the colleague was trying to take the employee’s mind away from other topics or cheer them up.

That changes the perceived value of the time spent.

Additionally, what about recharging?  Resting?  Learning?

We can frame this as…

Good waste of time = time spent as an investment

There may be no immediate return, but there may be benefits in the future.

What I am referring to is activities that take up time, but have some potential positive value.

For example, the other night, I spent 2 hours researching video techniques for my blog.  While surfing the various video blogging sites, I was wasting time that I should have been using to write.  (Or maybe do the laundry.)

But, I was investing time so that I may be able to produce better video blog posts in the future.  When you contrast this with spending 2 hours mindlessly watching TV, the difference becomes apparent.

Examples of Good Wasting of Time

• Learning a new skill – Activities that teach you new skills are almost always a good investment of your time.
• Hobbies – Some people look at hobbies as diversions.  But, I believe that “you need a hobby to be more productive.”  Your personal passion can drive productivity in all areas of your life.
• Building Relationships – It is important to spend time building relationships.  And sometimes the best way to do that is to just spend time with someone.  Brian Tracy said that when it comes to people, there is no such thing as “quality time.”  Rather it is “quantity time,” how much time you spend with them.
• Recharging – We all need to recharge at some point.  Sometimes a little downtime can produce better results when we return to our work.

Is It a Waste of Time?

Next time you find yourself “wasting time,” ask what future benefit you may receive?

Are you aimlessly watching TV or are you learning new skills and information that you will benefit from.

Are you procrastinating and not doing the tasks that you should be?  Or are you recharging so that you can be more productive in your work?

As a final thought, consider that many of the best business ideas started as hobbies or passions that were at some point considered a waste of time.

FINDING OURSELVES.

 
                      In a devastating tragedy a man lost everything he
had -his family, friends, wealth and status. As a result, however,
he became aware of something exhilarating and uplifting.
"I lost everything," he reflected excitedly, "but I found my self!"
The divine soul-self residing in our ephemeral bodies
has been buried beneath umpteen shrouds of vanities: money,
fame, status, power, the opposite sex, friends, colleagues,
make-up, jewellery,clothes, cars, computers even the stars
in the sky - in fact everything in the universe we attach ourselves
to! In 1998,947,000 females and 99,000 males in the U.S.
underwent cosmetic surgery in a bid to improve their appearance.
In the same year, 234 billion dollars were spent on cosmetic enemies,
food, drink, addictions products worldwide!
But, the further out we wander into these wrappings,the
more we lose contact with our centre, our essence. As a consequence
we experience heightened levels of anxiety anguish and emptiness.
One meets with melancholy,dejection, and hopelessness. It is no surprise
that 200,000 people in the U.S. and millions more around the world
attempt suicide every year.
Individuals centred in their divine selves, however, are like
people positioned in the eye of a hurricane: they encounter complete
serenity. It is only when a person moves outwards, away from this centre,
that he or she experiences feting - beset on all fronts by the perpetual
onslaught of life's demands, pressures and adversities.
There is no need to blame anything, anybody or any event
for your sufferings. Just return to your centre. That is where you are
supposed to be. The people, event and environment may not be as
they could be, but as far as your personal happiness is concerned
they are not the source of your distress. You are. It is you who is
mis-positioned.you are an umpire unwittingly chasing the ball at the
boundary.You are a goalkeeper, mistakenly playing the role of attacker.
you are a spectator who has inadvertently jumped into theboxing ring.
return to your seat. You are supposed to be an observer of your
surroundings, not a part of them.
Life is really about retracing our steps and making a pilgrimage
to our own nucleus. But because this inward trek is so difficult and abstract,
man has chosen the more easily achievable goal of venturing to the moon,
planets and stars.Or simply to the discotheque, cinema or sport's club.
He has chosen to earn mountains of money, fame and status and to indulge
in sensuousness as an easy alternative - the Primrose Path - rather than
treading the unfamiliar and solitary path to his own glittering and effulgent
centre stage.
The passage within is a stairway to eternal glamour and teems
with colours, sights, sounds and tastes so tantalizing and exquisite that
anything the outward world can offer appears as pittance in comparison!
Like an Aladdin's cave, near its mouth there are rocks and dust, but deep
within there lies priceless treasure - not emeralds, diamonds, gold and
platinum - but subslances far more precious, far more attractive and
infinite more enchanting. It is a magical world, where time stops,
distances contract and expand, where actions merge, emerge and
submerge. It is infinite; beyond the material world, yet the source of
all its energies. It is an infinite ocean of light before which the lumin-
escence of the entire universe appears 5 a mere flicker of a candle.
The divine soul-self residing within the body is like a prodigal son of
the ineffable Lord who himself presides at the centre of each and
every soul.

Anchor your lives in your soul and anchor your soul in God.
This is where the journey within culminates. And the path is not so long;
the goal not so distant. In fact, promises Bhagwan in his Vachanamrut
sermons, "The inward path to God is so short that he and his
divine abode are not even an atom's width away."
So close, yet so far. But repeated efforts under the guidance
of a spiritual master are what lead to all great successes and they will also
consummate in the greatest achievement of all realization of the
transcendental,omnipotent God.














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