STRESS MANAGEMENT.

                               Stress management? Easy!! Down a beer, smoke a cigarette, drink some tea
or coffee, watch television right? No! A thousand times, no! Of course there are more legitimate
treatments which thousands of people are trying such as massage, aromatherapy, acupuncture,
exercise, music and Prozac. But easy come, easy go. What needs to be treated is the cause,
not the symptoms. Some causes are quite trivial,such as poor time-management leading to
breached deadlines and a warning from the boss. A second cause is a failure to decide priorities,
leading to the completion of hundreds of "unimportant" tasks say, at the office and the neglect
of one very important responsibility say, a child's upbringing or a marital tension.
Putting aside these two amendable areas, let us focus on circumstances which really
are beyond our human capacity to control yet we feel compelled to, nevertheless. Doctors hate
discovered it is this feeling of compulsion combined with helplessness that leads to the psycho
-physiological symptorms of stress: anxiety, insomnia, lethargy, irritability, depression, weakened
immune system, high BP, cardiovascular problems and atherosclerosis.
Stress isn't anyone's delicacy. So why do people whip themselves to work so hard,
even though matters are totally beyond their scope of control? The fact is, Dr Dean Ornish
explains in his best selling book Reversing Heart Disease Without Medicine or Surgery that
deep within the psyche even the rich and famous people feel inadequate and lacking in
some personal area and consequentially isolated even though they may actually be in the
midst and approval of hundreds or even thousands of people! Because of these feelings of loss
or lack they feel, "If only I had more money, or more power more parental approval, more brains,
education, talent, more friends, athletic ability, better looks or a thinner waist then people would
acknowledge me, appreciate me, love me and then I'd be happy and fulfiled."
Rot. The bottom line is, feelings of self esteem or self worth can only come from within,
from your own soul and never from anybody else's sanction. There exists no worldly basis for
establishing a true foundation for one's self esteem: ideas about worth and value change in
different circumstances and are truly subjective. So don't worry about becoming something. In
principle and in practice,you just have to be. And the good news is, what you are already your
spiritual self is greater than any human power or material object in this universe! Whether or not
somebody else can appreciate this fundamental truth or not is immaterial. When you appreciate
it and live by it-it is enough. Investing in material things and enjoyments is as irrational as pouring
one's money into a collapsing bank. For doesn't mean just losing, it means being a loser. Failing
doesn't mean just failing ,it means being a failure. the sad truth is 99 percent of people invest this way.
failure. One individual while talking to another wonders whether he or she is a success, attractive
or intelligent while the other thinking precisely the same thing about him or her!


Nearly everyone wants to be soothed by the appreciation of others. Said tennis superstar
Boris Becker in with World Tennis magazine, "I wanted to find love and friendship through sports.
That's where 1 found my self approval.. I very frequently think about the meaning of life because
I live through so many extreme moments. I cannot do more than win Wimbledon.. I thought more
than once that it be so bad if I died at that moment." The Royal Bank of Canada devoted one of
its monthly letters to this almost ubiquitous problem with the title Let's Slow Down. "We are victims
of mounting tension," it wrote. "We have difficulty relaxing: we are not living fully."


Solution: try to do things slowly, without pressure. Don't keep "going for the kill" with
deadlines in every matter. Once you realize where the pain in your life is coming from, it
becomes easier to discard it. "One needs awareness," says Pramukh Swami Maharaj. And, he,
adds, "Whatever you think may happen, never keep tension. It merely makes you iritiable and
impatient. Remain peaceful. God is the all doer, not us. Understanding this ultimate truth brings
peace to soul." We must stop trying to play God and take back position as clerks. Stress is only
a symptom of trying to something one isn't. Stress management: you may call become
it managing one's ego.















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HOW TO TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE .

Freedom and independence has been the most frequent cause for which millions of people have laid down their history. "Democracy" has become the buzzword of western world since the defeat of communication in Russia and countries such as China and today, Pakistan, are being put under increasing pressure to adopt a more democratic system of government.
Ironiy, people living in so called democratic states continue to feel they are not yet quite in charge of their lives!They have to dance to the tune of somebody else's song,render lip service to somebody else's hero, pursue the career of somebody else's choice, wear the clothes of somebody else's approval and act in accordance with somebody else's ideals or value system! These people don't live in true freedom but in subservience to some home brewed concoction of ideas and fantasies of their associates, who in turn received their ideas from the usually superficial and frivolous media - as do people living in materialistic countries such as the United States and in Europe. Said Leon Wieseltier, cultural editor of the New Republic, "Hollywood is significantly responsible for the infantilisation of America.




Liberating the mind from the prison of peer pressure and public opinion is a crucial step in the crusade for true independence. People are more prisoners of their own psyches, than of society or the State. Psychologists call this ‘Learned Helplessness'. In an experiment, a raccoon was strapped down tightly in a metal cage with a rubber ball at one end and a small electrical current was applied to the cage.
Respect your judgment, decide your goal, tread your chosen path. Listen to that faint inner voice within your deepest conscience. Try to follow it. Remain sane in the midst of insanity and take charge of your life!

YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR FATE!

Why do so few people achieve the deepest dreams of their childhood? Why do so many people end up saying, "If only my boss.", "If only my health.," "If only my luck..."? The answer is simple. They lack one thing: Passion.
In the 2 century B.C.E a young Indian boy of 7 years old ,was told by an astrologer peering at his hand that he did not have the required lines of education on his palm to become a scholar. The young boy went into the house, brought out a knife, drew it where the line should have been and asked the astrologer, "Now can you see the line?" The boy was Panini,who grew to become one of the greatest grammarians in the history of Sanskriti.
In Hinduism, Karma theory is not a theory of bondage,as many construe, but liberation. As you sow, so shall you reap.Imagine you are treading water at the centre of a
river. What is your destiny? Wherever the river ends up,of course. But what if you begin swimming towards either of the banks, or with greater effort, in the opposite direction against the current? Then almost any point along either bank of the entire river can become your destiny. You may even choose to step out of that river completely and walk upstream or plunge into an alternative river! Your fate is sealed only if you refuse to make any efforts to alter your course.
The human body if one is prepared to try hard enough.regularly enough and for long enough. It is here that the presence or absence of passion becomes the deciding factor.
Passion is the substance that keeps people going, nourishing constant optimism, despite formidable obstructions in times in his Vachanamrut sermons that nothing is their path.
In a US school, a child who had no steady education because he came from an extremely poor background was once asked by his schoolteacher to write an essay about what he wanted to do and become when he grew up. He spent hours writing through the night - longer than any of his classmates and also drew a map of a 200 acre ranch with race
track and stables, etc. It also incorporated a detailed diagram of a 4,000 sq. ft. mansion, plus a swimming pool. A week later his teacher returned his work marked, "F. See me after
class." He was shocked and heartbroken. "Why have you given me an F? This is my dream." The teacher explained,"Your essay isn't realistic. I want to save you from pain an
frustration later in life. Write another essay and I'll givey a better grade." All night the boy struggled with the idea of changing or altering his dream to something else. The next day he returned to school and handed back the original essay. "Sir"he said, "You keep the F. I'm keeping my dream." That boy was none other than Marty Roberts who grew up to own
200 acre ranch with 4,000 sq. ft. mansion - precisely as he had dreamed.
In 1953, Yale University conducted a study of 1,500 boys and girls in Class 10. They were asked to write on a piece of paper what they wanted to do and become when they
grew up. In 1973, Yale students tracked down these people to assess their achievements in comparison with the goals they had written down 20 years earlier. They found that the
students who had written down their goals in great detail, only 3 percent were so successful that they were earning more money than the other 97 percent put together!
Similar findings have been published in Daniel Goleman's best selling book Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ. SAT scores have been found usually to contribute a maximum of only 20 percent to a person's final success.
The other 80 percent is provided by one's EQ or "emotional quotient" which Goleman defines quite simply as one's personal character: qualities such as self restraint, empathy,
friendliness and enthusiasm.
The Upanishads beseech, "Arise, awake and stop not till the goal is reached. Become the sculptor of your own destiny. Trust yourself.Trust the sages. Trust God. The sky's the limit














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SUPERSTITION OR REALITY ?

A man went to an astrologer to check his horoscope. After
peering at the calculations carefully, the astrologer looked up and said to the anxious inquirer, "Sir, it appears that your future holds more horror than scope."
The stars, planets and eclipses. The black cats, owls andcows. The fluttering of an eyelid, a bout of hiccups, a dream.In this world, almost nothing is without a meaning or bereft of an interpretation. Many tie lemons and chillies to their doorways or vehicles to ward off evil spirits. Others wear exotic rings on their fingers and talismans around their necks.Abroad, people avoid walking on cracks in the pavement,or beneath a ladder or acquiring a flat on the 13th floor of a building. And for heaven's sake don't drop that mirror! If it breaks, it means seven years of bad luck! Are these mere superstitions or is their some truth in any of this? People believe talismans and coloured stones have improved the quality of life. Others argue that if this jantra-mantra or hocus-pocus was true, there would be no need for governments around the world to maintain and build expensive armies and arsenals with nuclear warheads. All a leader need do is employ a good tantric and he'll create hell for his political enemies using just a few seeds of mung or by piercing a small doll replica of the enemy leader with pins.Yet, why don't we see such incidents occurring anywhere? Certainly, there are clear references to tantric procedures and practices in the Atharva Veda and Shiv Tantra scriptures showing that such powers do exist and can be honed into. But these are very difficult and ancient practices. How can people know them today? Could it be just by chance and coincidence that things seem to happen due to magical powers? In school we were taught a law which reigns above all the others in the universe, called Murphy's Law. It states categorically, "If anything can go wrong, it will!" Sooner or later, something goes wrong in almost everybody's life and you may conclude that your misfortunes were due to a tantric casting spells upon you when in fact your bad luck was due merely to complex and unforeseeable environmental, social or financial events such as the fall of the Nasdaq Index or simply because of some unwise decisions. Even mega-companies which were booming just six months ago video site and online retailer are today struggling for business. So are thousands of other companies. Is it because same tantric is working his powers on the e-commerce of the world? Personally, I think we create our own mindsets and then interpret our situation in a way that fulfils it. An old woman was throwing grains of rice around her house."Why?" asked a neighbour. "To keep tigers away," she replied."But there aren' t any tigers around here," objected the neighbour. "Effective, isn't it?" said the old woman jubilantly.

Whatever the answer to this conundrum, one thing should be understood clearly: the greatest and most powerful of tantrics' is God. One who has deep and single-minded devotion to God need not fear tantrics or ill omens, Even if outwardly it appears some evil force is harming them, they themselves understand that what is happening is happening only because of the will of their Lord, to whom they have surrendered themselves. They refuse to surrender to tantries and black magicians even if they are faced with death! For such devotees, God himself becomes their surety and securitySo if one day you find that someone has thrown mung seedsor placed a lemon in front of your doorstep, thank the personcollect the seeds together, wash them, boil them, offer themwith love to the deity and have a hearty meal. Or else givethem to some poor person or donate them at the mandir. Keepyour faith in God firm and continue on your way unruffled.Even if the tantric's powers are genuine, they will not work onyou - in fact, it will be the tantric who better watch out. It alljust may backfire on him.

DEFEAT YOUR DEPRESSION

The word "stress" used to be a purely engineering term.It dealt with how much pressure and tensile force a piece of metal could bear without deforming. Today, it is also employed as a medical term, referring to the effects on the human body of things such as work pressure, weather, heart,noise, traffic, pollution, financial problems, job interviews, presentations, disagreements, demands for one's time and attention, loss of loved ones, combined with psychological forces such as defeatist, negative and irrational thinking.


Result: deep-seated anxiety, tension and depression on the psycological front and frequent colds, flu, viral and bacterial infections, raised blood pressure, increased heart rate and the onset of cardiovascular disease on the physiological front.The problem is so acute, research shows, that two-thirds of all working days lost are due directly or indirectly to the effectsof stress.work pressure today and demands to achieve ever and ever tougher goals has burgeoned to the level that the average office goer works three times as hard for only twice the pay compared to twenty years ago! Just look at your own kids! The weight and number of books they lug with them to school today is more than five times what kids carried a decade aShockingly, but predictably, psychiatrists have lately begun to notice symptoms of study-related stress in these minorstoo! Even more sadly, it has been found that babies within the womb of pregnant and depressed mothers are born with clinical symptoms of depression, too.Today is the Age, not of the Space Shuttle, but of Stress !But this stress epidemic we see spreading throughout theworld is not bacterial, viral or physical at root. It is societa and psychological. Most of the infections, raised blood pressures and arterial blockages are symptomatic. This cannot be 'overstressed. Stress has developed out of an irrational and blind rush for material success and pleasure with the result of milions of people ending up not with true gold but Fool'sGold - iron pyrite - as did millions of people in South Africa in the 1950s. Materialistic pleasure and success is fool's gold.But ignorance drives ignorance. Numbers drive numbers."The masses can't be wrong," people reason to themselves."Let's follow them." Like a flock of sheep which observes one after another of its members step off a cliff with the reasoning that the previous lot couldn't all be wrong. Intelligent human beings are gripped so tightly by the notion that all the rich and famous actors, dancers, singers, models, businessmen,doctors, pilots and IT barons before them can't all be wrong, that they choose to leap off the cliff too! "Insanity in individuals is something rare," said Friedrich Nietzsche, "but in groups, parties, nations, and epochs it is the rule." And did you know that even psychiatrists can suffer from this insanity-related stress and depression?What will lift this menace that hovers above the heads of almost one and all? It will consist, say experts, of asking ourselves the fundamental question, "Wherein lies our basic self-esteem?" This is a question that hits the root reason behind nearly everything we do. Most people today attempt to build their self-esteem or their self-value on the possession of wealth, fame, status, good looks and talent. But this is foolhardy. "Marilyn Monroe, Mark Rothko, Freddie Prinz,and a multitude of famous suicide victims attest to this grim truth," says Dr. David D. Burns in his best-selling bookFeeling Good.All the above people had almost unlimited wealth, fame and status, etc. They were also adored by millions. Yet they threw away their own lives! The fact is, until you love yourself, approve of yourself, endorse and affirm yourself,no amount of wealth or talent or adoration from the masses is going to lift your depression. Learning to love yourself,for what you are - whether you have any achievements or talents behind your name or not is the fundamental basis of peace and true, self-sourced self-esteem. Self-esteem is about accepting and loving yourself together with the world, with all its ups and downs, unconditionally. Understanding this truth, loving it and living by it is the Royal Road to uprootingdepression and averting all its physical consequences.

THE SECRET ART OF HAPPINESS.

It's a rich man's world: Rolls-Royce cars, custom built yachts, five star hotels, mansions, private jets, exquisite jewellery, glamour, style ,panache.Oh,how these wealthy barons and beneficiaries must roll in bliss and ecstasy! What heights of fulfilment and satisfication they must have attained!
Yes and no. Ecstasy -born from a sense of vanity -for a few second ,maybe. Fulfilment and satisfication never.
And do those moments of megalomania, self-worship, swank and grandiosity really consist of happiness or anything even close to it? Or is it a hoax - a deception - like the gold million of infatuated people collected in South Africa, in the 1900s? The gold they amassed turned out to be iron pyrite-fools gold.
Do you really arrogantly believe that all those who are financially poorer than us are also psychologically poorer than us? Remember ,poorer is not so much an economic condition as a mental one. Riches are more to do with appreciating fully what one already possesses and that which is irreplaceable and have you ever seen the pleasure and fulfilment on the face of mother's upon playing with beautiful baby?
Love. This is both of hallway and hallmark of happiness.Not in Cars, Cloths and in 5 star hotels nor anything else money can buy. Just love. Nothing more, nothing less! Love say it all ,fills ia all-the heart, mind and soul!
Happiness not reserved for rich and famous .Happiness is one thing God has reserved for all. The gates of heaven open in hell! Performing has become their lifeblood, for they know no other way of being loved. They feel unloved unless they keep proving it and re-proving it, not to audience but to themselves by demonstrating before a large crowd their lovablenes!

Purpose of Human Life.

A rich and learned man was crossing a large blue lake in a small boat. To pass his time , he asked the oarsman, "How much do you own?" "Only this boat and the clothes I'm wearing," came the reply.The rich man laughed.He asked another question, "Can you count to ten?""No", came the answer again.The man learning roared. Continuing the enquiry, he asked "Do you know anything about business,politics,science,philosophy, dancing and the arts? Do you have any general knowledge whatsoever?" Non at all," reply the oarsman.The rich man guffawed and exclaimed , "Half of your life has gone in water!"Just then great wave caused the boat to capsize and both of them tumbled into the lake. "Now may I ask you a question ?" said the oarsman to the man of great intellect. "Go ahead" and he replied . "Can you swim?" "No,"came the response ."then," observed the oarsman,"you will loose your whole life in water."
what is the purpose of our existence when whatever we do or achieve in life -like the rich and learned man crossing the lake - counts for nothing in the final analysis? Ultimately , nothing we gain in our lifetimes is worth more than a glass of water .yet the fact remains that we exist- in all our pointless glory.
Life is really about :observing, thinking and thoroughly understanding everything about ourselves and the universe .The joy is in comprehending. Concluded physicist Stephen Hawking in his best selling book A Brief History of Time,"Why is it that we and the universe exist? If we find the answer to that , it would be the ultimate triumph of human reason-for then we would know the mind of God".
This is the logical purpose of human life : the search for Truth, the whole Truth and nothing but the truth. The truth behind the culmination of all truths- physical, philosophical and psychological; the truth behind every word, concept or dream that may or may not be listed in all the dictionaries and encyclopaedias of the world ;the truth about everything-including ourselves.

HAPPINESS IS ALL

WHO IS THE HAPPIEST OF THEM ALL?


Human beings are the happiest creatures on this earth. He and She have the highest intelligence of all life-forms and possesses a wealth of scientific gadgetry to make his and her life simple, easy and pleasurable that is jet planes, comfortable cars, HDTVS, internet mobile phones and so much more.


Sometimes a human being can become so happy he or she even commits suicide.No other creature has been known to do this.Amongst the happiest people in the world,as you probably know,are the Americans. America has one of the highest number of suicides- about 560 per week -a total of 30,000 per year. The Japanese follow closely behind with 26,000 suicides per year and other are followed in turn by the French and Germans who have nearly 13,000 suicides per year.
That's not all. Sometimes, man's happiness turns to ecstasy and he commits murder. the despotic rulers of the past were far more terrifying .Hilter ,for example ,ordered the extermination of all jews in Germany: approximately 6 million were gassed, buried alive or shot at his whim. and Mao (Zedong) tse-tung, leader of the Chinese government between 1949 to 1965 was even more cruel than Hitler. He ordered the massacre of 26.3 million of his own countrymen.
And how can we forget the Russians? Vladimir Lenin,Joseph Stalin and Nikita Khruschchev were bent on making other joyful. Under their regime from 1917 to 1959,they ordered the slaughter of 66.7 million of their fellow men.
Though in the year 2018, man is not happy as he used to be , there are still many points;everyday , all over the world there are millions of racial attacks, burglaries,thefts and assaults. Thousands are being killed in wars, terrorists attacks and family feuds.Millions of Parents live in old people's homes and million of children live in orphanages because neither care a dime for each other.
So that Man is not an Happy animal.He is probably the most wretched and miserable of all God's creatures.If he was happy and satisfied , he would never take his own or somebody else's life.Nor would he be jealous of others or compete with the people next door and his greed for more and more wealth, prestige and power would sublimate into thoughts of philanthropy and altruism.

Life

Life is defined as the property or quality that distinguishes living organisms from dead organisms and inanimate matter, manifested in functions such as metabolism, growth, reproduction, and response to stimuli or adaptation to the environment originating from within the organism.
Life is a characteristic that distinguishes physical entities that have biological processes, such as signaling and self-sustaining processes, from those that do not, either because such functions have ceased (they have died), or because they never had such functions and are classified as inanimate. Various forms of life exist, such as plants, animals, fungi, protists, archaea, and bacteria. The criteria can at times be ambiguous and may or may not define viruses, viroids, or potential synthetic life as "living". Biology is the science concerned with the study of life.